I am addicted to ginger tea but I refused to be labelled an addict; so every morning, I drop my bag on my desk and take a walk to the shop close to my office to get my daily dose. On this particular day, nothing was really unusual except that the vulcaniser next to her stall was not working on a car, but sat down, looking a bit discouraged”, it seemed heaven was shining down on car owners that day.
As I was about to pass in front of him, he turned sideways (away from me) as if to say “All these ones enjoying life in an office…”. Now, I’ve been known to look quite unfriendly, proud, snobbish, etc, so I knew he would expect that I would walk past him, with my head high, while looking down at him or acting as if he was invisible.
It was with great joy, that I greeted him fully, looking at him in the face and giving him all the attention for those few seconds. It was also with great joy, that I registered the surprise in his eyes, the stammer in his voice as he answered. That was the first time we had exchanged any greetings at all, but I tell you it’s been 3 weeks and we exchange greetings every day- He does it with a smile. I have never done my tyres with him and I probably will never make him rich with my greetings, but I believe something must have altered in him that day-I think so.
A lot of people are not comfortable with surprise, many times because surprise takes them out of control. However, as the “surpriser”, it gives you power, and it puts you at a vantage point. In business, it’s a very good trick to surprise your competitors from time to time. It keeps you on top. It’s also a nice trick to surprise your customers (carefully oh, and once in a long while). In relationships, surprising your partners, give them a version of you they’ve never see before. Give your spouse a massage after they have just obviously annoyed you to the point of ranting. Commend your boss in front of people; tell him how much he has encouraged you to grow (even if he just reprimanded you in a way that made you feel small). If you’re usually late, show up some minutes early one day. Go without make-up one day (hmmmnn).
Variety is REALLY the spice of life and just like we appreciate a product when we realise its additional uses, the same way we will be appreciated when people see some “never-before-seen” sides of us.
I’d like to know if you’ve surprised anyone lately. Please share:
v I usually try not to blog on issues outside my main title but I realise I will be throwing my thoughts away, so I did it; and it doesn’t feel bad after all.
– Photo credits to “jsascribes”